دانلود کتاب Borderline Personality Disorder For Dummies

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Title Page
Copyright Page
Table of Contents
Introduction
About This Book
Foolish Assumptions
Icons Used in This Book
Beyond the Book
Where to Go from Here
Part 1 Mapping the Boundaries of Borderline Personality Disorder
Chapter 1 Exploring Borderline Personality Disorder
Breaking Down Borderline Personality Disorder
Unpredictable relationships
Acting without thinking
Volatile emotions
Confusing thoughts
Exploring the Origins of BPD
Counting the Costs of BPD
Health costs
Financial and career-related costs
The toll on family and friends
Treating BPD
Psychotherapy
Medication
Relating to People Who Have BPD
Chapter 2 Defining Personality to Understand BPD
Characterizing Personality
Differentiating Healthy from Unhealthy
Openness: Seeking new experiences
Flexibility: Rolling with the punches
Emotional regulation: Controlling what you express
Ability to delay gratification: Controlling impulses
Conscientiousness: Responsible and reliable
Interpersonal effectiveness: Having good relationships
Emotional resiliency: Bouncing back from tough breaks
Self-acceptance: Seeing yourself as you really are
Accurate perception of reality: Seeing the world as it is
Moderation: Avoiding extremes
Chapter 3 Describing BPD
The Nine Symptoms of BPD
1. Sensation seeking (impulsivity)
2. Self-harm
3. Roller coaster emotions
4. Explosiveness
5. Worries about abandonment
6. Unclear and unstable self-concept
7. Emptiness
8. Up-and-down relationships
9. Dissociation: Feeling out of touch with reality
Diagnosing BPD: Like Ordering from a Chinese Menu
High or Low Functioning
BPD Over the Life Span
Other Personality Disorders
The odd and eccentric
The dramatic and erratic
The anxious and fearful
Emotional Disorders That Accompany BPD
Anxiety
Trauma and stressor-related disorders
Obsessive-compulsive and related disorders
Depressive disorders
Bipolar and related disorders
Other emotional disorders
Chapter 4 Exploring the Root Causes of BPD
Beginning with Biology
Genetics
Brain chemistry and functioning
Psychological Factors
Problematic parenting
Abuse and trauma
Separation and loss
Disorganized and disrupted families
Social and Cultural Influences
The neighborhood
Friends and peers
The teen years
Social media
Cultural factors
Mixing and Matching Risk Factors
Biological and psychological factors
Biological and social influences
Psychological and social causes
A full biopsychosocial mix
Part 2 The Major BPD Symptoms
Chapter 5 Sensation Seeking and Self-Harm: The Impulsivity of BPD
Living Dangerously: Impulsive Behavior
Hurting for Help
Types of self-harming acts
Why hurt yourself?
Suicide: Seeking the Ultimate Escape
A cry for help or an attempt at revenge?
Who’s at risk?
Chapter 6 Explosive Feelings and Moods
Emotions 101
Primitive emotions
Thoughtful emotions
Emotions — Borderline Style
Struggling to recognize and express emotions
Having emotions about emotions
Chapter 7 Missing Persons: Identity Problems and BPD
The Concept of Identity
What is identity?
How does identity develop?
Borderline Identity: Unstable and Fragile
Waffling identities
Worries about identity
Chapter 8 Perceiving, Understanding, and Relating to Others
Standing in Other People’s Shoes
Understanding other people
Seeing yourself through other people’s eyes
Causing unintended hurt
Busting through Boundaries
Disrespecting partners and lovers
Slighting friends and co-workers
Straining relationships with helpers
Riding roughshod over kids
Chapter 9 BPD and Extreme Thinking
Understanding How You See the World
How schemas develop
Types of schemas
Why schemas are hard to change
BPD Schemas: No Middle Ground
Self-concept schemas
Relationship schemas
World schemas
Chapter 10 Slipping Away from Reality
Discovering Dissociation
Feeling Paranoid or Delusional
Having Hallucinations
When You Have BPD and Feel Crazy
Part 3 Making the Choice to Change
Chapter 11 Researching and Choosing BPD Treatments
Exploring BPD Treatment Settings
Working individually with a therapist
Giving groups a chance
Spending more time in treatment: Partial hospitalization
Needing more care: Inpatient psychiatric wards
Combining and changing treatments
Researching the Treatment Strategies That Work for BPD
Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)
Mentalization-based therapy (MBT)
Transference-focused psychotherapy (TFP)
Cognitive therapy
Schema therapy
Transdiagnostic treatment
Metacognitive therapy (MCT)
Systems training for emotional predictability and problem solving (STEPPS)
Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
Compassion focused therapy (CFT)
Medication
Common factors in therapies
Choosing a Mental Health Professional
Primary healthcare providers
Psychologists
Psychiatrists
Counselors
Marriage and family therapists
Psychiatric nurses
Social workers
Starting Treatment
Evaluating your therapy
Giving therapy some time
Chapter 12 Breaking Through Barriers to Change
Overcoming the Fear of Change
Losing who you are: It’s not going to happen
Opening up: No need for cold feet
Dreading even more loss: Try not to test the ones who want to help
Fearing treatment: Don’t let therapy myths hold you back
Looking at fears of change in action
Taking Charge and Giving Up the Victim Role
Ending the blame game
Thinking like a victim: It doesn’t help
Finding forgiveness and coping
Stop Procrastinating
Dismantling excuses
Debating the decision
Getting Comfortable with the Process of Change
Chapter 13 Explaining BPD to Others
Deciding Whether and Whom to Tell
The benefits and costs of telling
Figuring out whom to tell
Deciding What to Tell
Educating yourself
Deciding how much to say
Telling Your Story Effectively
Chapter 14 Taking Care of Yourself
Dealing with Stress
Reviewing how stress affects health
Managing and reducing stress
Taking Better Care of Your Body
Revising your diet
Energizing with exercise
Getting enough sleep
Taking healthy actions
Finding More Time for Yourself
Part 4 Treatments for BPD
Chapter 15 Inhibiting Impulsivity
Increasing Your Awareness of Impulsive Behavior
Write down your impulsive acts
A case study of working on impulsiveness
Putting the Brakes on Impulsivity
Putting time on your side
Putting off your impulses
Doing something different
Fire drilling
Seeking Healthier Alternatives
Chapter 16 Calming the Storms Within
Putting a Name Tag on Feelings
Understanding the thought-feeling connection
Practicing emotional regulation
Forbidding Feelings from Ruling Over Thoughts
Doing the opposite of what you feel
Calming down with coping self-statements
Relaxing and Practicing
Making muscles relax
Soothing through the senses
Visualizing calm
Discovering Meditation
Benefits of meditation
How to meditate
Types of meditation
Meditation myths
Acquiring Acceptance
Discovering your observant mind
Playing with your judgmental mind
Chapter 17 Creating an Identity
Clarifying What’s Important in Your Life
Finding your personal priorities
Creating a personal life mission statement
Finding Forgiveness and Self-Compassion
Forgiving yourself first
Going from self-forgiveness to self-compassion
Fumbling to forgive others
Chapter 18 Putting Yourself in Other People’s Shoes
Understanding Others’ Points of View
Projecting: Thinking others feel what you feel
Practicing perspective taking
Noticing Your Impact on Others
Decreasing Defensiveness
Taking the “I” out of interactions
Putting a friend on your side
Musing over defusing
Getting Along Better
Listening
Giving compliments
Pillowing rather than pummeling
Chapter 19 Finding Shades of Gray: Changing Problematic Core Beliefs
Schema Busting Strategies
Recognizing the effects of schemas on your feelings
Exorcising problematic childhood schemas
Tabulating a cost-benefit analysis
Adopting Adaptive Schemas
Taking the direct approach
Staying on track with flash cards
Chapter 20 Considering Medication for BPD
Putting Medications on Trial
Getting Help from Medications
Considerations for taking medication
Precautions to consider
Surveying the Medicine Cabinet
Antidepressants
Neuroleptics
Mood stabilizers
Anti-anxiety medications (minor tranquilizers)
Problems with the Polypharmacy Strategy
Making the Medication Decision
Part 5 Advice for People Who Care
Chapter 21 What to Do When Your Partner Has BPD
Understanding Borderline Behaviors within Relationships
Going to extremes
Giving you the silent treatment
Gaslighting
Initiating isolation
Shaking up the present
Expressing entitlement
Acting impulsively
Feeling rejected and abandoned
Misinterpreting threats to self-esteem
Staying Safe: Emotionally and Physically
Dealing with your partner’s self-abuse
Knowing what to do when you’re the recipient of abuse
Walking Away from BPD
Debating the decision
Leaving abusive relationships if you decide to do so
Leaving nonabusive relationships if you decide to do so
Remaining in a Relationship
What does love have to do with it?
Hanging in for the long haul
Chapter 22 Befriending People with BPD
Recognizing Warning Signs of BPD
Determining When You’re Vulnerable to BPD Influence
Detecting Serious Symptoms
Handling Friends with BPD
What you can do
What you can’t do
Dealing with Dangerous Situations
Ending a BPD Relationship
Making your exit
Wrangling with guilt
Sticking with a Friend Who Has BPD
Chapter 23 Parenting Children at Risk for BPD
Heeding Early Warning Signs
Identifying problem behaviors
Pursuing a diagnosis
Looking at Risk Factors
Finding the Right Help
Loving Tough
Supporting without fostering
Setting limits
Dealing with a dangerous or out-of-control child
Managing screen time and social media
Taking Care of Everyone Else — Including Yourself
Parenting Adult Kids with BPD
Chapter 24 Advice for Adult Children of BPD Parents
Mourning the Perfect Childhood
Understanding the impact of BPD on children
Reviewing your relationship with your parent
Moving on with Your Life
Setting boundaries
Soliciting support
Becoming resilient
Chapter 25 Advice for Therapists of People with BPD
Detecting BPD in the Early Stages of Therapy
Maintaining Objectivity
Keeping your therapist ego on the shelf
Keeping therapist expectations within bounds
Understanding Boundaries
Dealing with Boundaries
Taking Care of Yourself
Part 6 The Part of Tens
Chapter 26 Ten Quick Ways to Settle Down
Breathing Away Distress
Chilling Your Hot Emotions
Picking Up Your Pace
Massaging Away the Blues
Surfing for Distraction
Reading (or Listening to) a Great Book
Mellowing Out in a Movie
Playing to Improve Your Mood
Phoning a Friend
Getting Outside
Chapter 27 Ten Ways to Say You’re Sorry
Saying the Words Out Loud
Asking for Forgiveness
Running an Errand
Sending Flowers
Sending a Card
Doing a Chore
Writing Your Thoughts
Finding a Poem
Sending a Small Gift
Making Amends: Giving or Volunteering
Chapter 28 Ten Things You Shouldn’t Do
Expect Quick Fixes
Stay Stuck
Choose Chiropractic Medicine
Stick Pins and Needles
Find a Life Coach
Fill Up Emptiness with Food or Drink
Try Too Hard
Gaze at Crystals
Get the Wrong Therapy
Hope That Medications Will Cure BPD
Appendix: Resources for You
Index
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