دانلود کتاب The Commitment Dialogues

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Terms of Use......Page 5
Want to learn more?......Page 6
Contents......Page 9
Introduction......Page 11
Author's Note......Page 15
Part I The Core Fears Buried Inside Relationships......Page 17
1 The Fear of Engulfment: Will I Still Exist if I Merge with You?......Page 19
Laney and Jared’s Commitment Dialogue......Page 21
Therapist's Overview......Page 33
Action Plan......Page 37
2 The Fear of Abandonment: Is There a Magic Glue to Make You Stay?......Page 41
Gary and Sierra's Commitment Dialogue......Page 44
Therapist's Overview......Page 60
Couple Interview......Page 64
3 The Shame Factor: You Won't Love Me Anymore if You See the Real Me......Page 67
Jacklyn and Todd's Commitment Dialogue......Page 68
Therapist's Overview......Page 83
Couple Interview......Page 88
4 The Emptiness Trap: If I Keep Moving, I Won't Have to Look Inside......Page 91
Guy and Danielle's Commitment Dialogue......Page 93
Therapist's Overview......Page 110
The Emptiness Questionnaire......Page 113
Action Plan #2......Page 115
Part II The Masking Issues......Page 117
5 Time: Spending It Together, Spending It Apart......Page 119
Heather and Tim's Commitment Dialogue......Page 120
Therapist's Overview......Page 133
Mapping the Week......Page 138
6 Money: Yours, Mine, and Ours......Page 141
Iris and Gregory's Commitment Dialogue......Page 143
Therapist's Overview......Page 156
Action Plan #1: Fill Out the Couples Research Form......Page 159
Action Plan #2: The Compromise......Page 163
7 Children: Am I Ready for This?......Page 165
Paul and Enid’s Commitment Dialogue......Page 167
Therapist's Overview......Page 178
Action Plan #1: Fill Out the Couples Research Form......Page 180
Action Plan #2: Shared Thoughts......Page 185
8 Sex: What Happened to It?......Page 187
Bill and Emma's Commitment Dialogue......Page 189
Therapist's Overview......Page 200
Action Plan #1: Fill Out the Couples Research Form......Page 201
Action Plan #2: Role Reversal......Page 205
9 Exclusivity: Who Do We Let In, Who Do We Keep Out?......Page 207
Seth and Georgia's Commitment Dialogue......Page 208
Therapist's Overview......Page 222
Action Plan #1: Fill Out the Couples Research Form......Page 226
Action Plan #2: Wise Mind Meditation......Page 228
10 Trust and Goodwill: Is Long-Term Commitment Possible if These Are Lost to Us?......Page 231
Tony and Sandra's Commitment Dialogue......Page 232
Therapist's Overview......Page 243
1. Time......Page 245
3. How It Feels When You're Together......Page 246
4. Trust......Page 248
6. Do You Like Yourself When You’re Together?......Page 249
7. Who Does the Work?......Page 250
8. Red Flags......Page 251
9. Picture the Future......Page 252
Going for It......Page 253
About the Authors......Page 257